More people each year are faced with the dilemma of caring for their elderly family members. In some cases, you may be able to provide for these needs yourself. Other times, you may find that work, children, or other responsibilities make it difficult for you to provide the care that they need. In such cases, you will find yourself faced with the difficult task of finding the perfect person to provide for your loved one’s needs.
In many cases, care workers will be women, but if your loved one prefers a man, they will do just as good of a job. Regardless of the sex, there are some things that you should consider. Here is a look at some of the most important considerations you should think about when looking for a caregiver for your loved one.
One of your major considerations is considering where your loved one is going to want to live. Unless they have a medical condition that requires it, many elderly people can continue to live at home instead of going to a nursing home. This is generally more comfortable for your loved one. Even if they have only lived in their current house a few months or years, they probably still call it home. They already know where everything is in their home, the neighbors, and the local attractions. If they have lived in the same area for a long time, moving away can cause them severe psychological damage and may send them into a depression. If your loved one already has mental health issues, you may want to try and work with them as much as possible to avoid causing further problems.
Another thing that you will need to consider is how well your loved one can care for their own personal hygiene. Depending on their own physical abilities, they may or may not need assistance doing simple tasks like bathing or using the toilet. Being able to care for these needs themselves is an important part of independence.
You also should be aware that finding a caregiver may be met with some resistance by your loved one. They may become angry that their privacy is being taken away, or they may become frustrated at the loss of independence. This may cause them to lash out at the caregiver, even to the point of becoming abusive. You also have to watch for caregivers that may do the same thing back at their patients.
One possible solution is to have a family member take over the care of your loved one. This may make the transition easier if they already know the person. If this is not possible, talk to neighbors and friends for recommendations on caregivers that have the experience that you need. Conduct interviews to see how well you think these caregivers might fit with your family, and remember to check all references.
Finding care for your elderly loved one is becoming more and more of a concern for families. The right solution may take some experimentation and discussion to find.